THE IMPORTANCE OF ADOPTING A SUCCESS MINDSET
Tamara Baruhovich
www.discoveryourpotential.net
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by a certain task that you have never done before? Do you stress about starting because you are not sure about how to go about it? We’ve all been in similar situations, but what matters is how we approach them. When we have a success mindset, we manage to build up the necessary courage that promotes the self confidence to start and do our best, regardless of what we know -or don’t know- about the task at hand!
Also, when we adopt the right mindset, we are more able to handle setbacks, and keep our spirits up regardless of the outcome. We hear it all the time… “Success is a State of Mind.” There are people who would argue that success is a natural result of proper planning, preparation and focused action, and that viewpoint certainly holds deep truth. However, there are also many examples that disprove that presumed “fact.”
Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeeds? Is it sheer luck? Timing? Tenacity? Hard Work? More often than not, it’s a person’s mind-set that determines whether they fail or succeed. But what is a mind-set, anyway? Typically a mind-set refers to your predominant state of mind day to day and moment to moment.
It’s formed of what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences. Think negatively, expect the worst, feel pessimistic about your options and that’s exactly what you’ll seem to draw into your life. Likewise, think positively, expect the best and focus on a successful outcome and you get it most of the time.
Makes sense, right? But how exactly does this work? Why is a success mind-set so essential in our outcomes? There are several reasons, but these three are the ones with the most weight:
1) A success mind-set boosts your confidence and self-esteem.
A lack of belief in yourself usually comes along with a sense of powerlessness and futility, which is the exact opposite of a success mind-set. Lack of confidence means you see no point in trying to be successful because it won’t happen anyway. If you feel this way often, it means you do not believe in yourself and your abilities to perform the tasks needed to succeed at your intended goal. Obviously, this creates a specific mind-set that is a recipe for failure in any endeavor. Having a true success mind-set, on the other hand, means you believe in yourself and your capabilities. Without being over confident and surreal, you believe you can succeed at nearly anything you try, and you’re willing to give it your best shot. Even better, you are willing to learn the missing information to pursue your goals. And, the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build – until you’re virtually unstoppable! (more…)
TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
Kim Olver
www.kimolver.com
We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain the idea that trust can be a verb, rather than a noun. It’s a choice you make and says much more about you than it does the person to whom you are extending that trust.
When you are involved in a relationship and you say you trust that person, it is more than a noun. It’s not just a thing you extend to a person like a gift–it is followed up with behaviors–things you do and things you don’t do.
When you trust someone, you know he or she will do the right thing. You know they have their affairs (no pun intended) under control. They are faithful and loyal. You don’t need constant reassurance of this–you just know.
What you don’t do is constantly grill a person about where he or she is and with whom he or she is spending time. You don’t have him or her followed looking for proof of infidelity. You don’t snoop around in his or her personal belongings or private places. You trust that he or she can be trusted.
Trusting has so much more to do with who you are as a person than it does with who your partner is. When you are secure in yourself and know that you are worthy to receive love, then it is natural to trust.
What You Believe Is What You Expect Is What You Receive
How often have you heard the following statements, “I will believe it when I see it” or, “If I don’t expect too much I will not be disappointed”. Taking them at face value, these statements seem to make some sense. However, the reality is that they violate some essential universal principles. The truth is that we have a belief and expectation about everything in our current reality. That is why we experience whatever it is that we experience. To say that you do not believe or expect anything is, as far as universal principles are concerned, erroneous. It is more accurate to say you believe something is not so or you expect for something not to happen.
