Category Archives: Thoughts

Dual Diagnosis Seminar




  • Dual Diagnosis is rapidly on the increase
  • Therapists are facing major challenges in effectively dealing with Dual Diagnosis patients
  • Most Mental Health and Addiction Recovery facilities are unable to cope with the condition
  • Many patients are not receiving the correct treatment which aggravates the condition

Frequently asked questions that will be discussed:

  • Exactly what is Dual Diagnosis?
  • Why is Dual Diagnosis on the increase?
  • Is addiction a precursor to mental illness or is mental illness a precursor to addiction?
  • Can both conditions be treated with the same protocol?
  • What is the prognosis for Dual Diagnosis?
  • What are the implications with the DSM 5?

When: Saturday 01 February at 10:00 till 15:00 (Five sessions)

Where: Life Recovery Centre, 31 Mulbarton Road, Lonehill

Presenter: John Smith

Cost: R300 per person – includes snacks, notes and a certificate of attendance

RSVP: John – 082 728 4766 or Limited seating available. Reservation upon confirmation of payment.

John Smith is a Certified Recovery Coach and Acudetox Specialist and is widely recognised for his work in the field of obsessive, compulsive and addictive behaviours, specialising in substance abuse and dual diagnosis. He has conducted numerous talks, seminars and workshops at business breakfasts, educational facilities, rehabilitation and recovery facilities, as well as numerous radio interviews.

John currently heads up the Professional Standards Body of UACT, a Recovery Coaching Training Academy, consults for various recovery facilities, sees individual recovery coaching clients, while continuing to conduct various public presentations. He is also the founder and facilitator of Recovery Coaching International.

The Power Of Our Thoughts

By Serene.K

The greatest power we ever got is the power of our thoughts. There is an Intelligence inside us that
can elevate our life at the highest level.

Everyone should learn to collaborate with this Intelligence which is organized to reaction our intentions and to create with us a life of abundance and happiness.

Freedom, happiness, richness, love, friendship, health and wealth are our birth right.

We have been created to live our life in freedom, health and wealth. If our life doesn't look like that, it means we block ourselves by our thoughts. Our thoughts are very powerful instruments we
use to either create happiness and wealth, or sickness and poverty.

If your life doesn't look like what you're dreaming of, it means you have thoughts which go against you. Your thoughts create your life. If you want to change your life, change first your thoughts.

You can choose your thoughts. Nobody in the world can put a thought in your head without
your permission. Your mind belongs to you! It's your job to control your thoughts! You are the
master of your head and you are the guardian of your thoughts.

You can change them.

Choose those thoughts who will bring you the results you want. Never think a thing you don't want to happen. Read that again: never think a thought you don't want to become true.

It means: don't think anything negative about yourself if you don't want this thought to become real. If you don't want to be stupid, stop thinking you are. If you don't want to be fat, stop rehearsing
in your head how fat you are now.

If you don't want to lose your spouse or partner, stop thinking about this possibility. Instead of these destructive thoughts, choose thoughts which reinforce you. Choose to think how intelligent you are, and you will be! Choose to think how beautiful you are, and you will shine like a star!

Choose to think you are loved, and you will!

Thoughts are energy. Every thought carries an energy level. Your choice: or you choose thoughts which lower your energy level, or you choose thoughts which increase your energy level.

It's in your hands! Or better: it's in your head! How you will feel and act depends on what you think. Every action and emotion is preceded by a thought. You can choose thoughts which block you, or even paralyze you.

It isn't any more difficult to watch your thoughts to be able to choose them consciously. It's just a matter of exercise and consciousness. Once you've learned how to become the master of your thoughts, you become the master of your life!

If checking your thoughts seems too difficult for now, you can start watching your mouth. Never let come out of your mouth something you don't want to happen! Never wish a bad luck to anyone if you don't want this to realize. Watch your mouth, watch your words, watch your thoughts, and become the creator of your own life!

Your life does not depend on others. It depends on your own ability to master your thoughts.

Unleash your potential.


Ten Surprising Facts About Rejection

How Rejections Damage Our Psychological And Emotional Well-Being
By Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Rejection really hurts but most rejections inflict damage to our psychological well-being that goes way
beyond mere emotional pain. Here are ten lesser known facts that describe the various psychological
impacts rejections have on our emotions, thinking, and behavior. Let’s begin by examining why rejection
hurts as much as it does.
1. Rejection piggybacks on physical pain pathways in the brain: fMRI studies show that the same
areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain.
This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking). In fact our brains respond so similarly to
rejection and physical pain that:
2. Tylenol reduces the emotional pain rejection elicits. To test the hypothesis that rejection mimics
physical pain, scientists gave some people Tylenol (acetaminophen) before asking them to recall a
painful rejection experience. Participants who received Tylenol reported significantly less emotional pain
than subjects who received a sugar pill. Psychologists assume there is a specific reason for the strong
link between rejection and physical pain. Specifically:
3. Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past. In our hunter gatherer past, being
ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone.
Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we
were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention—those who experienced
rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an
evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to
remain in the tribe. Which probably also explains why:
4. We can relive and re-experience social pain more vividly than we can physical pain. Try recalling
an experience in which you felt significant physical pain and your brain pathways will go, ‘meh’. In other
words, the memory alone won’t elicit physical pain. But try reliving a painful rejection (actually, don’t—just
take my word for it), and you will be flooded with many of the same feelings you had at the time (and your
brain will respond much as it did at the time too). Our brain prioritizes rejection experiences because we
are social animals who live in ‘tribes’. This leads to the next aspect about rejection we often overlook:
5. Rejection destabilizes our ‘Need to Belong’. We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group
(or tribe). When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilized and the disconnection we feel adds to
our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, reaching out to members of groups to which
we feel strong affinity and who value us and accept us, has been found to soothe emotional pain after a
rejection. Feeling alone and disconnected after a rejection has another often overlooked impact, this time,
on our behavior:
6. Rejection creates surges of anger and aggression. In 2001, the Surgeon General of the U.S. issued
a report that stated rejection was a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang
membership. Countless studies have demonstrated that even mild rejections lead people to take out their
aggression on ‘innocent’ bystanders. School shootings, violence against women, and fired postal workers
going...postal, are other examples of the strong link between rejection and aggression. However, much of
the aggression rejection elicits is also turned inward:
7. Rejections send us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem. We often respond to
romantic rejections by finding fault in ourselves, bemoaning all our inadequacies, kicking ourselves when
we’re already down, and smacking our self-esteem into a pulp. Most romantic rejections are a matter of
poor fit and a lack of chemistry, incompatible lifestyles or wanting different things at different times and
other such mutual dynamics. Blaming ourselves and attacking our self-worth only deepens the emotional
pain we feel and makes it harder for us to recover emotionally. But before you rush to blame yourself for
blaming yourself, consider that you might not be thinking clearly in those moments:
8. Rejection temporarily lowers our IQ. Being asked to recall a recent rejection experience and relive
the experience was enough for people to score significantly lower on subsequent IQ tests, tests of short-term memory, and tests of decision making. Indeed, when we are reeling from a painful rejection, thinking
clearly is not that easy. This explains why:
9. Rejection does not respond to reason. Participants were put through an experiment in which they
were rejected by strangers. However the experiment was rigged—the strangers were confederates.
Surprisingly, being told the ‘strangers’ did not actually reject them did little to ease the emotional pain they
felt. Even being told the strangers belonged to a group they despised such as the KKK did little to soothe
their hurt feelings. But not all the news is bad because:
10. There are ways to treat the psychological wounds rejection inflicts. It is possible to treat the
emotional pain rejection elicits and to prevent the psychological, emotional, cognitive, and relationship
fallouts that occur in its aftermath. To do so effectively we must address each of our psychological
wounds (i.e., soothe our emotional pain, reduce our anger and aggression, protect our self-esteem, and
stabilize our need to belong).
For more about treating the psychological wounds rejection inflicts, check out my new book, Emotional
First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological
Injuries(Hudson Street Press, 2013).

Success Takes Action


By Kevin Ngo

If you want to get from point A to point B, something needs to move. With all of the formulas, methods,
ideas, and strategies of success that you can pick up, none of it will change your life until you put what
you learn into action. Action is the key to success, at least partially.

The fact is that anyone can take action. How many people do you know can get themselves to the gym in
the month of January? Seeing that so many people set losing weight as a new year’s resolution, you
probably know at least several. However, it’s not taking action once in a while or whenever you feel like it
that will change your life, it’s taking action consistently, day in, day out, whether you feel like it or not.
If you break it down, most goals are easy to achieve. You just have to perform certain tasks long enough
to achieve your desired outcome. The challenge for most people however, is in being consistent.
Challenges, obstacles, setbacks, these things cause most people to feel discouraged and as a result,
they stop taking action because in their minds, they don’t see the point. They lose their motivation.
If you want to increase your ability to take consistent action, here’s the key: Make your actions a habit.
The more you consistently perform a task, the easier it will become. The challenge though is that in the
beginning, it will all be about your level of motivation and will power.
You need to do what it takes to keep taking action. This is critical because if you stop, it will be very easy
to just quit on your goal for the time being all together and wait for the “perfect time” to start over again. If
you continue taking action even when it’s hard, even when the results don’t seem to justify continuing the
effort, eventually, you’ll hit a point where the struggle will start to ease, a point where motivation and will
power is no longer needed.

When you reach this point, you’ll see how some people can make being successful look so darn easy.
You’ll also understand why consistency is so important. Will it be easy to reach the point of habitual
action? It depends on your goals but in general, it’s going to feel like an uphill battle at first but once you
reach that breaking point, it’ll be just a matter of time before you reach your goal.

Trigger Technique
One technique I found to be useful is to attach the action to something you already do everyday in order
to form a sequence of actions. By attaching the actions that you want to form into a habit to an existing
habit, when the existing habit is triggered, a process will be activated, eventually leading you to perform
the action that you want to make into a habit.

For example, let’s say you want to do some sort of workout each day. Since you shower everyday, you
can make it a habit to do a quick workout every time before you shower. If you go onto Facebook every
day and your goal is to study more, get in the habit of studying right after you finish using Facebook. If
you watch TV every day and your goal is to read more, immediately read after you’re done watching your
show. If you drink coffee every morning and your goal is to practice a new language, get in the routine of
practicing while you’re drinking your coffee.
Experiment with putting the new action before of after the existing habit to see what works best for you.

Put this into action:
1. Write down the daily actions that you need to take in order to reach your goals and commit to taking
those actions no matter what for at least a month.
2. Find something you do on a daily basis to attach your actions to.
Note: It’s going to be easy at first since your motivation will likely be high. After the first week, it may start
to get tougher. Once you reach day 30, it’s possible that your actions haven’t become a habit yet. If this is
the case, keep going until it does. If you’re taking action towards your goals on a daily basis, it will
eventually become habitual or at least easier.