THE PRESUPPOSITIONS OF NLP
• Respect for the other person's model of the world.
• Behavior and change are to be evaluated in terms of Context, and Ecology.
• Resistance in a client is a sign of a lack of rapport. (There are no resistant clients, only inflexible communicators. Effective communicators accept and utilize all communication presented to them.)
• People are not their behaviors. (Accept the person; change the behavior.)
• Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available. (Behavior is geared for adaptation, and present behavior is the best choice available. Every behavior is motivated by a positive intent.)
• Calibrate on behavior. (The most important information about a person is that person's behavior.
• The map is not the Territory. (The words we use are NOT the event or the item they represent.)
• You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results (and I am also in charge of my mind and therefore my results).
• People have all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes. (There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.)
• All procedures should increase Wholeness.
• There is only feedback. (There is no failure, only feedback.)
• The meaning of communication is the response you get.
• The Law of Requisite Variety. (The system/person with the most flexibility of behavior will control the system.)
• All procedures should be designed to increase choice. Real choice is only between two or more options.
Stress Biofeedback operates on the notion that we have the innate ability and potential to influence the automatic functions of our bodies through the exertion of will and mind.
Stress affects your muscles by causing them to tense and tighten. This, in turn, can produce other aches and pains, such as headaches or backaches.
By helping you to become more attuned to your internal body functions, biofeedback teaches you to control certain unhealthy conditions. Muscle biofeedback equipment, for example, can measure the tension of your muscles and relay this information to you. By focusing on this information, your mind becomes less preoccupied with the problems causing stress, which in turn causes fewer messages to be sent from your brain to your muscles telling them to stay tense. You can use the information from the biofeedback instrument to make connections between the information and the way you feel. This increases your awareness of your own muscle tension and helps you learn to recognize tension when it first begins. Biofeedback training also teaches you ways to control the tension before other symptoms have a chance to develop.
Biofeedback is more effective if you combine it with relaxation techniques, self hypnotism and psychotherapy. In this way you not only learn how to control your reactions to stress but you can explore the causes of the stress and your thoughts and behavior that contribute to it.
The Life Coach asks powerful, intuitive questions, questions that are key to the energetic coaching process. These questions are empowering, they help you explore your inner expert to discover your purpose, your dreams, and your passions.
The Life Coach supports you, challenges you, and motivates you to achieve extraordinary things and make positive changes in your life.
When you work with a Life Coach, they help you to:
• Stretch your limits. They help you challenge yourself. They guide you to set goals that step out beyond your comfort level ~ with your permission of course! Coaches don't push, they open space for you to move forward.
• Break through resistance. Sometimes you know what you want to do, what you are perfectly capable of doing .... but you consistently resist doing it. Your life coach helps you break through to that resistance to do what you really want to do with your life and be "who" you are.
• Get past your Energy Blocks. Once you've identified your Energy Blocks, with your life coach's help, you can reduce their power in your everyday life. Those energy blocks can include any Limiting Beliefs, Assumptions, and Gremlins you may have that prevent you from moving forward.
• Re-frame your world. There is power in adjusting how you look at the world ... even the smallest of adjustments in language can make huge differences in your perceptions. For example, when you learn to change the words "I'll try" to "I will" or "I have to" to "I choose to" you've re-framed how you approach a goal or a project. Simply re-framing those little words breaks through all kinds of resistance and creates positive energy.
• Raise your awareness and notice your energy. Your life coach helps you to be consciously aware of your energy levels, your thoughts, your feelings, behaviours, perceptions, judgments etc.
In order to determine where you are in your life currently and where it is you would like to go, complete the following Desired Outcomes Questionnaire.
Goal Setting functions as a prerequisite to success in most areas of life. Yet sadly, still ninety-five percent of people do not set goals. Who do these ninety-five percent work for? The five percent who do!
NLP provides an effective tool for setting goals. How? The NLP model enables us to go beyond mere “goal setting” into the actual “programming” of our minds to drive us towards our desired goal. How does it do this?
The brain works primarily from our sensory system (pictures, sounds, feelings). The NLP goal setting model addresses this by getting our goal sensory specific. But it doesn’t stop there. For the brain not only uses the sensory system, it also uses our word meanings that drive the sensory system. For this reason, the NLP Goal Setting Model makes absolutely sure that we language ourselves in such a way as to drive our very neurology and physiology towards obtaining our desired goal.
The specificity of the NLP Goal Setting Model facilitates concentration on what you internally see, hear, and feel. Your attention will direct itself toward external and internal resources necessary in achieving the goal. The NLP model provides the following features as a way to more clearly think about moving from a present state to a desired state.