Monthly Archives: May 2013

Conflict Resolution and Dialogue Facilitation

The  No-name  Initiative  (NNI)  is  a  transformational  group  process  that  supports  emotional  processing  and expression, awareness dialogue, as well as personal responsibility and accountability.

Some years have passed since the Truth and  Reconciliation  Commission  (TRC). Although  the  TRC  brought about  a  much  needed platform  for reparation  and reconciliation, many who were  not  directly involved  are  still left with unresolved and unprocessed feelings and thoughts about our past. South African citizens seldom have access to platforms in which to express this constructively. There is a desire for change and at the same time, the unprocessed underlying emotional field that includes disempowerment, victimhood, disillusionment, anger, guilt, distrust and apathy is holding us back.

In essences the NNI aims to:

- provide a platform of a transformational group process for citizens; and

- generate the space for creating ownership and personal accountability structures.

A NNI could take anything from two hours to two days and can be used in groups of 5 to 500. We suggest that you

have 4 hours at your disposal to allow for a spacious group process as needed.

The NNI Methodology consists of the following elements:

1. Dreaming (individual and collective)

2. Group process (relying i.e. on principles of Deep Democracy and Worldwork)

3. Personal Commitment (self-empowerment and being accountable)

4. Connection and community (belonging and being part of a greater system)

This  dialogue  process is  embedded  in  change  theory,  deep  democracy,  principles of coaching  and  process work,  as  well  as  ancient  wisdoms. Although the  community/group  always  chooses  and finds  consensus  on their  topic  for  dialogue,  the  process  will  always  endeavour  to  release  underlying  emotional  energy,  express marginalised voices, and address power imbalances towards supporting empowered active citizens.

The NNI group process facilitates dialogue, understanding and change. This process supports the  belief  that once  we  feel  heard  and  understood  as human  beings,  it  then  becomes  easier  to  let  go  of  what has been holding us back and invite change and transformation. From the new emotional field, change and practical solutions becomes easier, and once disempowered citizens become active citizens.

Success Takes Focus

Success Takes Focus
By Kevin Ngo

You can have a strong desire and really want to achieve your goal but as I’m sure you’ve experienced, life has its way of knocking us off course. Things come up, distractions occur, the next thing you know, you look at your goals and wonder what the heck happened.

Success takes a lot of focus. I’m sure you’ve had the experience of setting a goal and being really excited about achieving it only to have a few weeks or months to go by and realize the goal has dropped down on your list of priorities.

People often get easily side tracked. Circumstances and situations can nudge you off course. This doesn’t just happen all at once. Often times, you get off track just little by little until one day, you realize you’re completely off track. Keeping your mind focused on your goal can be a constant battle because everything around you is trying to get your attention. Since most people can only focus on so many things at once, it will be your job to keep your goal up high on your priorities list.

So what can you do to keep your focus, to keep your eyes on the prize? There are several things you can try. You can write down your goal and read it each morning and night. You can visualize achieving your goals daily. You can make sure that your daily to-do list includes doing something that will take you closer to your goal. You can buy some motivational posters and stick them on your walls. You can find a friend who has a similar goal and work to keep each other on track.

One of my favorite methods of keeping focused on a goal is to constantly ask myself, “Is what I’m doing right now bringing me closer to my goal or further away?” Once you answer that question, you’ll know what to do.
The common theme in all of these ways to keep your focus is to constantly keep your goal on your mind. Making an effort to stay focused on your goal is a lot easier if it’s a major goal that you have an intense desire to achieve.
Now because staying focused on one major goal is hard enough, you may want to consider sticking to just one goal. If you look back at the goals you’ve tried to achieve and realized you haven’t achieved any of your major goals, it may be time to just focus on a single goal. This way, all of your energy and focus can be put towards obtaining that one goal which will dramatically increase your chances of getting it. It’s a lot better to just achieve 1 major goal then to work on a dozen and achieve none of them.

The final thing I want to say about this reminder of success is that you’re going to have days where you do nothing to get closer to your goals. You’re going to have periods of time where your focus and priorities are elsewhere. When this happens, many people will beat themselves up mentally and quit all together.
Remember that you’re human and because of this, you’ll make some errors in judgment. You’ll get side tracked here and there. Instead of beating yourself up, just be aware that certain things can take your focus away from your goals. Once you’re aware of these things, you can actively reduce the amount of time they take your focus off of your goals.
Distractions are like gravity, it’s constant. It’s going to cause us all to fall every now and then. The important thing is that we bounce back up every time we fall. Get your focus back on your goal when you start to realize it’s drifting somewhere else. The quicker you do it, the better.