THE IMPORTANCE OF ADOPTING A SUCCESS MINDSET
Tamara Baruhovich
www.discoveryourpotential.net
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by a certain task that you have never done before? Do you stress about starting because you are not sure about how to go about it? We’ve all been in similar situations, but what matters is how we approach them. When we have a success mindset, we manage to build up the necessary courage that promotes the self confidence to start and do our best, regardless of what we know -or don’t know- about the task at hand!
Also, when we adopt the right mindset, we are more able to handle setbacks, and keep our spirits up regardless of the outcome. We hear it all the time… “Success is a State of Mind.” There are people who would argue that success is a natural result of proper planning, preparation and focused action, and that viewpoint certainly holds deep truth. However, there are also many examples that disprove that presumed “fact.”
Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeeds? Is it sheer luck? Timing? Tenacity? Hard Work? More often than not, it’s a person’s mind-set that determines whether they fail or succeed. But what is a mind-set, anyway? Typically a mind-set refers to your predominant state of mind day to day and moment to moment.
It’s formed of what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences. Think negatively, expect the worst, feel pessimistic about your options and that’s exactly what you’ll seem to draw into your life. Likewise, think positively, expect the best and focus on a successful outcome and you get it most of the time.
Makes sense, right? But how exactly does this work? Why is a success mind-set so essential in our outcomes? There are several reasons, but these three are the ones with the most weight:
1) A success mind-set boosts your confidence and self-esteem.
A lack of belief in yourself usually comes along with a sense of powerlessness and futility, which is the exact opposite of a success mind-set. Lack of confidence means you see no point in trying to be successful because it won’t happen anyway. If you feel this way often, it means you do not believe in yourself and your abilities to perform the tasks needed to succeed at your intended goal. Obviously, this creates a specific mind-set that is a recipe for failure in any endeavor. Having a true success mind-set, on the other hand, means you believe in yourself and your capabilities. Without being over confident and surreal, you believe you can succeed at nearly anything you try, and you’re willing to give it your best shot. Even better, you are willing to learn the missing information to pursue your goals. And, the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build – until you’re virtually unstoppable! (more…)
TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
Kim Olver
www.kimolver.com
We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain the idea that trust can be a verb, rather than a noun. It’s a choice you make and says much more about you than it does the person to whom you are extending that trust.
When you are involved in a relationship and you say you trust that person, it is more than a noun. It’s not just a thing you extend to a person like a gift–it is followed up with behaviors–things you do and things you don’t do.
When you trust someone, you know he or she will do the right thing. You know they have their affairs (no pun intended) under control. They are faithful and loyal. You don’t need constant reassurance of this–you just know.
What you don’t do is constantly grill a person about where he or she is and with whom he or she is spending time. You don’t have him or her followed looking for proof of infidelity. You don’t snoop around in his or her personal belongings or private places. You trust that he or she can be trusted.
Trusting has so much more to do with who you are as a person than it does with who your partner is. When you are secure in yourself and know that you are worthy to receive love, then it is natural to trust.
Do You Deserve It Or Are You Mistaken
By Aaron Potts
When thinking about your desires in life, there are 2 concepts that usually come into play. One of these concepts is obvious, the other is not, but both are powerful in determining whether or not you get what you want! The most obvious thing that people think about is how they are going to accomplish any given task. This is probably the most self-limiting practice that you can consciously partake in.
Yes, it is a good idea to take action whenever you are inspired to do something that will take you towards your goal. However, if you constantly focus on how you are going to get something that you want, then you will easily fall prey to circumstances that take you off track. Your only job in the process of creating what you want is to focus on what you want. The “how’s” will work themselves out by the simple fact of you staying focused on what it is that you desire. The second concept is a bit more slippery to grasp, although it is equally as powerful in determining whether or not you are going to get whatever it is that you are after in life.
The concept that I am talking about is whether or not you believe – on the inside, where it counts – that you truly deserve whatever it is that you are wanting to attain. What you have in your life right now represents very specifically what you think that you deserve. The beliefs that each of us have about our lives have been ingrained in us over the years and serve to dictate our lives on a day to day basis. If those beliefs are positive and empowering, then you are good to go. However, if those beliefs about what we deserve are limiting, they are now coined as “self-limiting beliefs” and that is exactly what they do – they limit us to a certain level of success in life. For some people, this comes in the form of health and weight loss. They don’t truly believe that they deserve to be healthy and beautiful like other people, so they subconsciously manifest that result over and over again into their lives.
For even more people, this same concept manifests itself with regard to their financial status. If you truly believed that you were deserving of riches, and that you could handle the “wealthy” lifestyle, then you would be in the process of manifesting that lifestyle every day. Although most people will say indignantly, “I deserve money!”, the truth is that there is a self-limiting belief underneath the surface that is feeding them just enough of the opposite thoughts to keep them from ever amassing any significant wealth. However here is the thing that you should take away from reading this post that can literally cause you to start manifesting money – or anything else – right at this moment: If you have a strong enough desire as well as a belief that you deserve wealth, health, or anything else, you will set the universal forces in motion that will bring those things to you – just because you want them and believe that you deserve them. (more…)
The Perfect Plan
By Chuck Danes
Do you sometimes feel that life’s unfair, that future hope is bleak?
Do your day to day experiences leave your spirit feeling weak?
Do you ever think the joys in life are reserved for just a few?
That your hopes and dreams you’ll never reach no matter what you do.
Have you ever thought how hard it is to get ahead these days?
That strain and strife are part of life and nothing you do pays?
If you do, take heart my friend, so many think this way.
But there is hope a brighter path that you can take today.
It will require a shift in thought, it may challenge your beliefs
But it will guide you to a life of joy, content, relief.
So listen closely and absorb this perfect plan I share
Implement these steps you’ll learn and soon you’ll be aware
Of a life that’s filled with joy beyond your wildest dreams
Regardless what “appears” to be no matter how life seems.
Focus your attention on what you soon will learn
The wisdom in it, if acted on will provide those things you yearn
The answers are available just seek and you will find
That all which you’ve experienced is a product of your mind
These troubles you encounter now that you feel get in your way
Are due to thoughts, emotions felt that you had yesterday.
For long ago the plan was made which allowed you to be free
From all these limitations that you now perceive to be
You have been given power which you’re not yet aware
It’s through misuse of this gift that’s created your despair
For in the plan there came a clause that remains within it still
That each and every soul on earth be entitled to free will
You chose to limit your results by absorbing false belief
The plan designed to bring you joy through your own choice brought you grief (more…)
The power of intention
A lesson from sports champions: The power of intention changes reality. Your health. Your career. Your world.
Seven weeks before Muhammad Ali met World Heavyweight Champion George Foreman for their “rumble in the jungle” at Kinshasa in 1975, Ali practised his punches as if he couldn’t care less, taking a few desultory swipes at his sparring partner as if distractedly popping a bag. Mostly he’d lie against the ropes and allow his opponent to pound away at him from every angle.
In the latter years of his boxing career, Ali spent much of his training time learning how to take punches. He studied how to shift his head by just a hair a microsecond before the connection was made, or where in his body he could mentally deflect the punch so that it would no longer hurt. He was not training his body to win. He was training his mind not to lose, at the point when deep fatigue sets in around the 12th round and most boxers cave in. Ali’s most important work was being done, not in the ring, but in his armchair. He was fighting the fight in his head.
This is how Ali remained “the greatest.” He drew upon the power of intention for strength in the ring. And I think we could all learn something from him. After poring over data from many people who use the power of intention successfully in their own lives, I believe the art of intention can enhance our performance in many activities, and even affect our health.
The most instructive examples of the art of intention come from sports, not only from the greatest boxer of all time, but other top sportsmen and women. Athletes of all varieties now routinely perform what is variously termed “mental rehearsals,” “mental practice,” “implicit practice” or even “covert rehearsal.”
Focused intention is now deemed essential for star athletes to improve their games. Swimmers, skaters, weightlifters, basketball and football players all employ intention to enhance their levels of performance. It is even used in leisure sports, such as golf and rock climbing. (more…)
